It's embarrassing, difficult to deal with and quite honestly, it's fucking painful. The feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach, the lump in your throat as you try not to cry and be brave and the anxiety that follows after with all the thoughts in your head 'am I not good enough? What could I have done differently?' Then you have all the sympathy from other people, asking if you're ok, if there's anything they can do.
Whether it be for a job, a relationship, freelance work, audition etc, it is difficult to deal with - so how do you deal with it? I don't know, is the honest answer but what I have learned is this:
- Cry it out - Crying is good for the soul, and if you need to cry, then let it out. Full on shoulder shaking sobs are the best kind for this I find ;) don't worry about being a pretty cry-er right now.
- Ask why - You're entitled to feel upset by the situation, and if asking 'why' to someone makes them feel bad, it ain't your problem. Let them know how it's made you feel (if it's acceptable to do so of course!)
- Allow yourself to be angry - Anger is a main reaction for rejection. Feel it, allow it to flow through you and then LET IT OUT. This is so important. Don't bottle it up, find a way to let your anger out. Cry, scream, shout, pound it out in the gym, do whatever works for you.
- Take a break - Whatever the source of rejection was, take a break from it. A day, a week, however long you feel you need to heal. If you don't want to talk to people, then don't, just allow time for you.
Just remember though, you WILL get over it. Yes, occasionally it'll rear it's ugly head and all those feelings you originally felt will probably come back, but with time, that will get less and less. It will feel better, eventually.
But it will.
P.s - this is a deep post, I know, but one I needed to write today <3